Monthly Archives: April 2013
Stress and frustration go hand in hand. I guess a person who is stressed is more vulnerable to feeling frustrated or being emotionally sensitive to things which can otherwise affect him less. April is the stress awareness month and today is the National Stress Awareness Day. I sincerely hope you all have been able to set aside at least 10- 15 minutes for yourself to unwind and relax. Let me know how you spent your “me time”.
Here are some tips for making today a less stressful day, hope you enjoy it!
If anyone reading this is unemployed, focus on points 2, 5 and 7!
Finally always focus on the good and on things that you can control!
Stop stressing and start living!
“Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency”- Natalie Goldberg.
How do you feel when your friends post pictures with big smiles and grandiose comments on Facebook? Research at a couple of German universities have shown that one out of every three Facebook users leave the website feeling envious, jealous and frustrated. Are you one of them?
Here is what frustrates me about Facebook:
- Receiving friend requests from relatives who I have not seen in the past 20 years and who are as old as my parents
- Friends deliberately ridiculing my current status e.g. “How is your post doc going”? Or, “I heard you got married, is that true”?
- Looking at the blowhard comments of my friends, some of which are listed below:
- “As all ways Marriott is treating me like a King”!!! –from an acquaintance who visited Mariott for perhaps the second time.
- “I am getting to spend so much time with myself, I am afraid I might fall in love with ME ;P”- someone who has come to the US for a post doc!
- “If attending weddings, receptions, birthdays, casual invitations and other such social appearances had a remuneration attached to it then I would have become a billionaire by now”!!- whatever this is supposed to mean, what surprises me is that it has 14 likes…brrrr
- “10 hours of Shopping started from 4 am across 5th Avenue, 15 hours of sleep!!!!!!! What a ‘Black Friday’ Celebration”- again I have no clue what this means, LOL
- “Signed the offer acceptance form for my second postdoc”. “First day of my second postdoc”!- wow what an achievement—congratulations dude!
- “I won the Photocontest (People Category) organized by McBain Camera for their Photographic Tradeshow, 2011.According to the McBain website Winning entries will be printed and displayed at the XYZ Photographic Trade Show on October 30, 2011″.Super happy!!!!:)” — am really happy for you too!
- “Yay, what a nice surprise (a scholarship that I didn’t even apply for!) and that also day before B’day”!- really? this is surely unbelievable!
- “F*** … I can’t believe this … I got invited for the second time to publish by a high impact factor journal for the second time within a month! I think I am going to choke !!! Yahoooooooooooooooooo … I am on the top of the world”— Mama Mia!
and the list continues……
I guess in the hindsight I keep going back to Facebook just to have a laugh over some of these larger than life comments of my friends…I love you Facebook, thanks for keeping me connected with all the fun!
What makes you feel angry when you look at your Facebook homepage, and how do you cope with this? Have you almost stopped using Facebook to stay away from the annoying posts? Is Facebook making you socially isolated and depressed instead of helping you network with your friends?
Read more about Facebook envy at the following URLs
Please copy and paste the most grandiloquent comment you have read on Facebook!
“Forget your enemies. It’s your friends you frustrate that cause all the problems”- Michael J. Tucker.
Kobe Bryant vented anger and frustration on Facebook following the injury and the recent surgery of his Achilles tendon. This injury may keep him sidelined from basketball for the next nine months.
Here is what he vented,
“This is such BS! All the training and sacrifice just flew out the window with one step that I’ve done millions of times! The frustration is unbearable. The anger is rage. Why the hell did this happen ?!? Makes no damn sense. Now I’m supposed to come back from this and be the same player Or better at 35?!? How in the world am I supposed to do that?? I have NO CLUE. Do I have the consistent will to overcome this thing? Maybe I should break out the rocking chair and reminisce on the career that was. Maybe this is how my book ends. Maybe Father Time has defeated me…Then again maybe not! It’s 3:30am, my foot feels like dead weight, my head is spinning from the pain meds and I’m wide awake”.
“Forgive my Venting but what’s the purpose of social media if I won’t bring it to you Real No Image?? Feels good to vent, let it out. To feel as if THIS is the WORST thing EVER! Because After ALL the venting, a real perspective sets in. There are far greater issues/challenges in the world then a torn Achilles. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, find the silver lining and get to work with the same belief, same drive and same conviction as ever”.
“One day, the beginning of a new career journey will commence. Today is NOT that day. “If you see me in a fight with a bear, prey for the bear.” I’ve always loved that quote. That’s “mamba mentality” – we don’t quit, we don’t cower, we don’t run. We endure and conquer. I know it’s a long post but I’m Facebook Venting LOL. Maybe now I can actually get some sleep and be excited for surgery tomorrow. First step of a new challenge. Guess I will be Coach Vino the rest of this season. I have faith in my teammates. They will come thru. Thank you for all your prayers and support.
Much Love Always.
How have you decided to deal with your frustration? Just like Mamba says, “Stop feeling sorry for yourself, find the silver lining and get to work with the same belief, same drive and same conviction as ever”. How can you turn your frustration into an accomplishment? Give voice to your frustration! I would like to hear from you!!
This video somehow reminds me of my job hunt. My emails keep getting transferred from the recruiter, to the HR, to the hiring manager and then it gets lost somehow, and I never hear back from anyone anymore.
Here is one of the worst experiences I had while job hunting. I had sent out my resume to a senior scientist of a company hoping if he forwarded my email to the hiring manager, I might stand a chance of getting interviewed. I got really excited to receive an email the next morning saying my resume was forwarded to the HR and the hiring manager of the company, and they would contact me if there were any interest.
In an hour I got a voice message from the recruiter of the company saying he was eager to talk to me about a couple of openings.
I called him back soon and to my dismay he was the most offensive recruiter to talk to. He sounded overworked and had no clue why he called me up. He gave me a peace of his mind and said he had no idea why the HR forwarded my resume to him. He said my resume was not enough information to discuss about job openings. He was upset for not being able to pull up my information from the database (because I had not applied for the position through the company website, alright that makes sense). He was very eager to know whether an internal employee of the company referred me for the job. On top of that he said the job I applied for did not exist. He thought it could be a fake advertisement, so I had to email him the link for the job.
Here is what he wrote me back after this:
“Yes that would also be an I and T position….. Go ahead and apply to that one if interested.
We have so much happening it becomes confusing….”
I asked him if he could put me in touch with other recruiters in my city. He said he was the sole recruiter for all Molecular Biologists and Engineer positions at I and T in the entire west coast of the US! Alright, I and T has 75,000 employees, I have no clue how can someone as incompetent as him be the sole recruiter for ALL the molecular biology jobs in the west coast of the US!!!????!!!
I have been contacted by recruiters before via Linkedin and no one made a big deal for not applying through the company website!
Alright, now that I have vented out my anger at this recruiter I honestly feel much better! In fact the following quote has given me the motivation to keep going until I find a job!
“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice”- Wayne Dyer.